“We cannot expect to be in control of the circumstances in our lives when we cannot control our minds for five minutes. Meditation is the daily minimum requirement that will prevent us from breaking down and falling apart at the most inopportune moments. It is the art of listening. It is a practice which enables us to tune in and fine-tune the key areas of our lives: the mind and the spirit.”—Iyanla Vanzant
“Keep quiet. Do your work in the world, but inwardly keep quiet. Then all will come to you. Do not rely on your work for realisation. It may profit others, but not you. Your hope lies in keeping silent in your mind and quiet in your heart. realised people are very quiet.”—I am That (via buddhabumps)
“Note to self:
You’ll always be treading on tumultuous grounds if you habitually allow your mood to be affected by unpredictable events or people. Sometimes, you just have to find it in you to let go of all the things that didn’t go according to plan, and instead be joyful for all the things that did; and to remain thankful for the blessings you’ve thus far received, and with a lighthearted demeanor be open to receive all the goodness that is yet to come.”—(via seedeeply)
Never try to help someone unless they are ready to be helped.
Until help is asked for, until there is that readiness to listen and receive and let go of old patterns, your attempt to help will be felt as manipulation and control – your issue, your need, not theirs. Defences will go up, positions will become hardened, you will end up feeling frustrated or superior or powerless, and the mirrored roles of ‘victim’ and ‘saviour’ will make you feel more disconnected from each other than ever.
How to truly help? Meet them where they are right now. Let go of your dream of their immediate healing. Slow down. Validate their present experience. Don’t try to impose your own agenda or assume what is ‘best’ for them. Perhaps you don’t know what is ‘best’. Perhaps they are more hardy, intelligent, resourceful, and full of potential, than you ever could imagine.
Perhaps what is ‘best’ for them right now is not to want – or need – your help! Perhaps they need to suffer or struggle more. Perhaps they are aligning and healing in their own unique way. Perhaps what this moment requires is trust, and deep listening, and profound respect of where they are in their journey. Perhaps you are only trying to help yourself.
Perhaps real change comes not from trying to impose change on others, but by aligning with where they are right now, unlocking all the creative intelligence of the moment, honouring their unique path and their mysterious process of healing.
When you try to change someone, you are communicating to them that they are not okay as they are, that you reject and resist their present experience and want it to be different. You may even be communicating that you don’t love them. When you stop trying to change them, and meet them as they are, and align with life as it presents itself, great and unexpected change is then possible, for now you are an a true friend and ally of the universe.
Stop trying to change others, and they change in their own way, in their own time. Perhaps you help the most when you get out of change’s way.
“The reason so many of us are obsessed with becoming stars is because we are not yet starring in our own lives. The cosmic spotlight isn’t pointed at you, it radiates from within you.”—Marianne Williamson (via mindofataurus)
“The power of love to change bodies is legendary, built into folklore, common sense, and everyday experience. Love moves the flesh, it pushes matter around…. Throughout history, tender loving care has uniformly been recognized as a valuable element in healing.”—Dr. Larry Dossey (via seasonalbuds)
“Only through love can you return anyone to love. You cannot restore someone to their Connection with Source by belittling them or by punishing them, or by being disgusted with them. It is only through love that you can return anyone to love. And if you do not have a way of returning them to love, they will always be a problem to your society.”—Abraham Hicks (via thingsthatsing)
“Magic exists. Who can doubt it, when there are rainbows and wildflowers, the music of the wind and the silence of the stars? Anyone who has loved has been touched by magic. It is such a simple and such an extraordinary part of the lives we live.”— Nora Roberts (via words-and-coffee)
“The world of the everyday suddenly seemed nothing but an inverted magic act; lulling its audience into believing in the usual, familiar conceptions of space and time, while the astonishing truth of quantum reality lay carefully guarded by nature’s sleights of hand.”—Brian Greene, The Fabric of the Cosmos (via aworldofexperiences)
“My head is bursting
with the joy of the unknown.
My heart is expanding a thousand fold.
flies about the world.
All seek separately
the many faces of my love.”—Rumi (via transcendingthemaze)
“Contain your experience with the divine so that it does not escape you but rather shapes you. Be silent. Silence will help you avoid engaging in the games of competition and illusion that regularly seduce us in the outside world. Silence also helps you avoid distraction. It helps focus the busy mind—-the mind that always has to be doing something, thinking something, the mind that always has to be otherwise engaged lest it become introspective and allow the soul’s voice to override its own. The silence I am describing is a silence that you use to contain the grace you receive when you enter the Castle of your soul. This quality of silence allows you to engage in discernment. You carry this silence within you, even when you are with others. It allows you to hold your center amid the chaos of your life; it keeps you clear so that you do not do or say things you will regret or make decisions out of fear.”—Caroline Myss (via transcendingthemaze)
“Nature loves courage. You make the commitment and nature will respond to that commitment by removing impossible obstacles. Dream the impossible dream and the world will not grind you under, it will lift you up. This is the trick. This is what all these teachers and philosophers who really counted, who really touched the alchemical gold, this is what they understood. This is the shamanic dance in the waterfall. This is how magic is done. By hurling yourself into the abyss and discovering it’s a feather bed.”—Terrence McKenna (via yeshecholwa)
“To live a life without having any fundamental expectations of anybody. This is a great freedom. You find you are almost un-shockable because something inside has switched off the button
of how things should be.
Our inmost Being yearns for this freedom again. Don’t get ahead of yourself preparing things, you move in your own way.
Whatever the life force expresses in terms of the dynamic expressions of life - let it be there.”—Mooji
“We are so much more than our physical bodies and our circumstances but we have forgotten this, and our experiences here on Earth are manifested to help us remember. Life doesn’t have to be hard, scary and full of struggle. It can be fun and effortless! We are here to recognize where we have disconnected and forgotten our truth and to then take the journey to remember. We do this by seeing all of the ways we have made fear more real than love, believed in limitation rather than our infinite potential and kept ourselves small rather than shining our light. The journey of life can be full of freedom if we are willing to embrace our challenges, heal our limited thinking and reconnect with the power that exists within us at all times.”—Connie Chapman (via purplebuddhaproject)
“Our parents had parents too—they were wounded as children, too—and they didn’t know any more about how to get it right in this life than we do. Most of us are not victims of our parents, so much as we AND our parents have all been living for years as the effect of the unresolved, fear-based energies permeating this world. None of us deserves blame and ALL of us deserve compassion. Sometimes you can’t really forgive your parents until you have allowed yourself to cry for them.”—Marianne Williamson (via mindofataurus)